11 Reasons to Get Off Our Screens and Get Back to Living

Written in honor of 11/11 and everything I’m manifesting during this powerful portal…

1. Because you can't feel all your senses through a screen. You can look at a thousand photographs of the ocean, but none will leave salt on your skin or wind in your hair. No video call can recreate the feeling of sitting across from someone, sharing a meal, and feeling their energy when they hug you tightly.

2. Because life has better plot twists than an algorithm. The stranger you meet on a trail. The conversation that lasts three hours longer than expected. The invitation you almost declined. The spontaneous detour. The best moments rarely come with a calendar invite or a notification.

3. Because your body was made to move, not sit in front of another rectangle. Your legs want to wander. Your lungs want fresh air. Your hands want to make things. Your eyes want to look at something farther away than twelve inches. We weren't designed to spend our days commuting from one chair to another.

4. Because you can't build a meaningful life by watching everyone else's. At some point, you have to close the window into someone else's world and open the door to your own. Less observing, more participating. Less consuming, more creating.

5. Because boredom is where the magic begins. When every spare moment is filled with scrolling, streaming, meetings, or another podcast, we leave no room for our own thoughts. Boredom is not a problem to solve. It's often the beginning of creativity, curiosity, and unexpected ideas.

6. Because friendship requires more than a Wi-Fi connection. We need to sit across from one another. Hear the laughter that doesn't translate through a speaker. Notice the pause before someone says what they're really feeling. Hug hello. Walk together. Share a table. We need people in our lives, not just little squares on a screen.

7. Because nature reminds us we're part of something bigger. A redwood doesn't care about your productivity. The ocean doesn't measure your worth. A mountain doesn't ask you to unmute. There is something deeply healing about being somewhere you don't have to perform, present, or produce.

8. Because being constantly available isn't the same as being connected. Back-to-back Zoom calls, instant messages, emails, and notifications can create the illusion of connection while leaving us feeling strangely alone. Sometimes the most productive thing we can do is become unavailable long enough to be present.

9. Because memories are made through participation. We don't want to reach the end of our lives with a beautiful archive of other people's adventures and a calendar full of meetings, but very few of our own stories. We want scraped knees, missed turns, first kisses, bad dancing, unexpected sunsets, and the occasional wonderfully unproductive afternoon.

10. Because our attention is our most precious currency. Whatever we give our attention to becomes our life. Every hour spent in another meeting that could have been an email, another scroll, or another virtual gathering is an hour we could have spent moving, connecting, exploring, or simply being. Not everything needs to happen online. Not every conversation needs a screen.

11. Because we are not here just to witness life. We are here to live it. To fall in love. To make art. To get lost. To taste unfamiliar food. To take the long way home. To have conversations that wander. To feel the beautiful, messy, inconvenient, extraordinary business of being alive.

Birthday Reflections.

Being alive, it turns out, largely involves making big mistakes, getting your heart broken, or else avoiding every beautiful and tender and vulnerable and true thing in order to prevent yourself from having a broken heart.

How horrible it feels to be in the world.

How lonely it feels to go through it alone.

How revolutionary to allow yourself to stay soft, to look for the good, to keep trusting that there is a different ending to the story you’ve believed for so long, to have the faith and courage to consider there could be another way, and to chip away at the path towards it, even if it means digging in the dirt with your fingernails.

To stay with it long enough to look up and realize you’ve finally made it home.

October in 9 Squares.

My word for 2026 was GROWTH. As an Enneagram 3, I’m used to outward-facing growth through creating, performing, speaking, and facilitating in public. This year, however, my growth came more through periods of stillness, rest, and listening. Rooting down underneath the soil, growing in the dark. Allowing everything from my past to decompose, build heat, and create fertile soil for new seeds to grow. It’s only when we are healed that we feel safe to show our vulnerable parts to those who earn our trust. This month those seeds began to bloom and blossom.

Ironically, growth was also happening inside of my body- a wild card that I wasn’t expecting at all.

For now, I’m reminded to control the variables that I can- how I eat, move, love, and view my situation in the best possible light. Growth means trusting. Trusting that everything will unfold exactly as it is destined to.

Intimacy These Days.

How did you sleep last night / how did your meeting go / i’m going to trader joe’s, do you need anything / i got these for you because i know you like them / take my sweatshirt / take my hand / want me to crack your back / want me to hold that for you / want me to hold you / what do you want to eat for dinner / i brought you snacks / i’ll take those weights off the bar / i’ll spot you / i’ve got you / just rest / do you want to get sandwiches after this / is this pace ok / look at this pic i took of lil baby / he misses you / i miss you / should we stay in / should we go out

Befriending Myself.

I practice speaking

to myself

like I would

an old friend:

I should’ve known better / you did the best you could in that moment

look at my scars / they are proof of everything you’ve healed from

am I doing enough / look how much you’ve accomplished already

I was so stupid / you learned so much from that time

it’s too late / you still have time

will I ever be enough / I love you

How often I forget

the power of words-

the power

of befriending myself.

Life Lately.

The back half of this year has been full of ‘good change’… a new hair color for the fall, enjoying new cuddles, seeing some good muscle growth and strength post-op, yummy meals, and hitting the trails (pain-free). What felt like a loss of a year to two major surgeries was actually creating the space and capacity for me to appreciate the new blessings that were about to enter my life.

Where You Bean This Summer?

Summer is almost officially over, and some kids have already started school. It’s always interesting as a coach to hear how people spend their summers and which activities they gravitate toward. Adventuring to foreign countries, staying local and enjoying stay-cations, building in deliberate rest, and (perhaps!) meeting an unexpected special someone to spend the longer days and sunsets with.

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Slowly Coming Back to Life.

One realization I’ve made this year is how interconnected my creativity is to my physicality. My daily morning raw dog walks are where ideas formulate, when lines of poems drop in, when insights come, and connections are made. Hiking in nature is where I’m most open to metaphors in life, remembering stories and creating bigger connections to life lessons.

Five months of this year have been dedicated to two huge surgeries. I’ve had to relearn how to walk twice. Two rounds of being on a walker, then a crutch, then a cane. Daily mobility and weekly physical therapy. Working through niggles and pain and adjusting my activity to meet my recovery needs.

Needless to say, it’s been rough.

And my creativity has taken a huge hit.

Monthly meetings with my fellow creatives left me feeling like I was stuck in a rut. I’d listen to them share about their fun 100 Days of Making, workshops they had led, and when my turn came to share, I felt sheepish because, to be honest? Inspiration was gone. Motivation to create had vanished.

I wanted to shift things. So I had to start with something really, really simple. Make a newspaper blackout poem every day. A simple creative act that took <10 minutes, looking at the newspaper to make a simple poem.

The first newspaper blackout poem I made. Sometimes the exact message you need to hear is the one that emerges…

Sometimes you just have to start small. But I know and trust that this momentum will build. I can already feel myself (and my creativity) slowly coming back to life.

Noticing the Good.

July sunsets in Colorado hit just right.

The amount of good things in your life depends on your ability to notice them.

It’s not about having more. It’s about taking the time to appreciate the things right in front of you.

Experiencing one minute of awe a day can significantly lower stress, boost your immune system, and remind us that we’re connected to the whole.

What’s one good thing you can notice today?