You know how when little kids get puppies, they squeeze them so hard and don't want to let them go? I am like that- I tend to hold on hard to the good things in life, sometimes too tightly that it can be suffocating.
I'm learning to hold on gently, loosen my grip- surrender.
I used to be quick to judge things, circumstances, events, and automatically label them as "good" or "bad." Actually, I still do, but I am learning that swinging back and forth on the pendulum is exhausting. Sometimes it's best to just settle in the middle, in that sweet spot, and observe without judgement. Just let things be.
Surrender is not an act of giving up, but rather, of a giving over. Unlike most may believe, non-resistance can be a strength.
Pretend you are holding a cup in each hand. One cup is empty, and the other is full of water. If you hold them and you're relaxed, you can feel a difference in the weight. But as soon as you constrict and tighten your grip, you can't feel the difference in the weights as much. Likewise, when you tighten up and tense up in life, you lose access to the inner resources that you need to discern what is in front of you; what's in your grasp.
Surrender is not about weakness, it is about wisdom.
Non-resistence isn't necessarily a gift, an art or a talent- it is a practice- one that must be done with intentionality, observation and grace. This is a practice that I am constantly cultivating in my life, as I learn to release expectations and relax.
It is only when I do this when I am able to discern the differences in the cups of water and choose correctly- allowing my lips to taste the pleasure and take a sweet sip of life and love.
I'm learning to hold on gently, loosen my grip- surrender.
I used to be quick to judge things, circumstances, events, and automatically label them as "good" or "bad." Actually, I still do, but I am learning that swinging back and forth on the pendulum is exhausting. Sometimes it's best to just settle in the middle, in that sweet spot, and observe without judgement. Just let things be.
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| Observing, not judging... (taken at Point Lobos) |
Pretend you are holding a cup in each hand. One cup is empty, and the other is full of water. If you hold them and you're relaxed, you can feel a difference in the weight. But as soon as you constrict and tighten your grip, you can't feel the difference in the weights as much. Likewise, when you tighten up and tense up in life, you lose access to the inner resources that you need to discern what is in front of you; what's in your grasp.
Surrender is not about weakness, it is about wisdom.
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| Child's pose; a time to relax and surrender... |
It is only when I do this when I am able to discern the differences in the cups of water and choose correctly- allowing my lips to taste the pleasure and take a sweet sip of life and love.